Supporting Mum like your her Man
You can be your mums only support system. It embarrassing. You will have spent most of your life in embarrassing predicaments, not having an emotional support system yourself. I transcend all illusions.
The mother in this crisis talks to you like your her man. She talks negatively about things that have happened involving you like your her man. It’s embarrassing. You really did something bad to her in her own mind.
A lot of time is spent mentally caring for this person even if you ghost them and go no contact. They have a third parent in their child and yet complete lack awareness of it. It’s embarrassing.
This parent is in a great deal of need. They are dysfunctional to people who typically excuse their behaviour sometimes they even blame the persons child as well - just like it’s their lover or partner.
This type of parent struggles to form genuine connections with people whilst they hide their dysfunctional tie with their child acting like the child is not normal. They need therapy.
Theory of Suffering
If your closest parent wants you to suffer, even inadvertently, by God you will. Like the Oedipus complex I tried to Google whether or not someone had invented a theory of suffering which specifically relays adult suffering back to the subconscious desires of the parent (usually the mother) to destroy her own child. I am yet to decide whether or not every mother exhibits this deeply suppressed desire. Something to consider.