I Grew Up Without A Father…What’s The Impact?

Is It Bad To Not Have a Father?

In short, it just depends on who you are and how you feel. I only wondered about my dad when I noticed that other people had active fathers. Knowing that your parent didn’t want you can impact the way you perceive other men. Building healthy close bonds with other men can be impinged. You have to learn how to be a man with other men. So in a way it is bad for the child.

How Did Not Having a Father Affect Me

It affected my perception of men. Then again I did not have healthy male role models who stuck around long enough to be a long-lasting father figure. My mother often prioritised the needs of her man above that of her children.

Impact On My Mental Health

Depression was something that was prevalent within my psyche from a teenager. I’ve only recently elevated the pangs of depression. It feels great. Having parental support can guide you through life, having said that if your spiritual inclination tends towards self-discovery, learning about your missing and fractures parts is part of what makes life enjoyable.

Attachment Styles

That I developed painful relationships with women through anxious attachment styles is owing to my disastrously childhood and not the absence of a father. I believe that one good parent can be good enough. The important thing is having a healthy supply of unconditional love, even from a grandparent.

The Role of Father Figures and Being a Father

I had several father figures but none of them stuck around. I had a son with my ex-girlfriend, well he was like a son to me. It opened my chakras to love for a child. My ability to bond with this child was not affected by the absence of my father.